When was the last time I used my laptop? Last year, I think. After my desktop died I just used Bob's, since he wasn't home (When he was home and we had only one desktop and no laptop, one of us was always on it: "can I use it for a while now???"). Now that he's home, he's still not using it, but now his bed is in the living room (where the desktop lives), and although he sleeps much of the day he's also ready to "go to bed" and have me turn the lights out before 9 most nights. So here I am, with my giant laptop on a small lapdesk, in the bedroom. It runs windows 7 (I think), which, when I first got it, I got used to rather quickly and like some features of. The "sticky notes," for one thing. They're cool. Now I just need to figure out how to get comfortable in bed while typing... or while knitting, for that matter. If I do it in the kitchen he can't sleep because of the light. Next on the shopping list is a couple more curtain rods, and a couple more curtains to use in doorways, to block the light.
A social worker from the Veterans' Administration came out today. She'll be looking into getting us some financial help and maybe even (she said) "four or six or eight hours a week Respite Care," so that I can get out and do something for my own psyche once in a while. Of course, while he's still so dependent, me going to school or working is out of the question. We're not going to have a repeat of December '10 thru March '11, when every time I got home from school or from grocery shopping he'd be laying on the floor.
Being home all the time isn't especially restrictive to me, but not being able to go outside to, for instance, mow, for a couple hours at a time, that is hard on me. I find myself hovering around indoors till he gets up (noonish), and then hanging around in case he needs to walk to the bathroom (with me tagging along, so he doesn't fall), or to fix him something to eat, or to encourage him to exercise. So other than laundry, reading, and facebook games I haven't gotten a whole hell of a lot done this past month.